For most married couples there is nothing quite as important as having a child together. Both husband and wife have dreamed of the day that they are in a loving married relationship and then proudly announced to friends and family that they are pregnant and will be expecting a baby. Each of us has daydreamed of the day when our lives will change forever and entertained thoughts of what it will be like to have a little boy or girl that shares our name…our home…our lives.

For many of us though, what happens most naturally for many other couples doesn’t come quite so easily. I know that for my wife and I, we wondered what the problem might be and the unspoken question for months was whether or not we would ever have a child together. My wife began reading up on how to become pregnant and we began to schedule work around when she was most likely to become pregnant and a thermometer and a notebook became my wife’s best friend for months…but still she never became pregnant.

My poor wife was frustrated and began to feel like a failure as a wife and a woman. She wondered why it was that so many other women in the world became pregnant even when they didn’t want to, yet she couldn’t even though there was nothing that she wanted more in this world than to be pregnant and be a mother. We discussed adopting and invetro fertilization and consulted with doctors and friends who had gone both routes. Carefully we weighed the pros and cons and listened to my wife’s doctor’s advice who said for us to give it a year.

My wife read up on tips, tricks and even wives tales for how to become pregnant. She changed her diet so as to avoid foods that might be causing issues in her body and became a health food nut. We tried different ways of “making a baby” in hopes of success. I was given boxer shorts to wear or told to wear “nothing at all” for the sake of helping her to become pregnant.

For my wife and me, success came and she became pregnant when we were least expecting it and stress was removed from her life. My wife leads a very hectic life during the school year since she is a school teacher and it was during summer vacation while she was occupied with other things that she realized that she might be pregnant. She hadn’t been keeping track of things in her notebook and had been simply having fun over the summer doing some volunteer work when she realized that she was pregnant.

Perhaps you wives out there could use this very informative article to convince your husbands to let you take the summer off! It is worth a try, right? The point is that for us, it was the stress of work and I believe the pressure that my wife was putting on herself to become pregnant that was the issue. Try eliminating some stress from your life or perhaps go away on a “baby making vacation” before jumping to conclusions and feeling that you will never become pregnant. This might be all that it takes!